Couples Counseling

Maybe you’re fighting with each other more than usual and all your interactions are colored by anger, resentment, and constant nitpicking. Perhaps there was infidelity and you’re wondering how you’ll ever bounce back and regain each other’s trust. Or maybe parenting stress has put a strain on your relationship and you’ve realized you have wildly different ideas about raising kids. No matter what the source of your troubles is, you might worry that your relationship is a sinking ship and find yourself questioning your future together. As a result, you may be thinking that it’s time to see a couples therapist.

Perhaps you feel like you’re just ships passing in the night.

Not all relationship problems stem from conflict. Maybe you and your partner aren’t arguing or clashing heads all the time, but a sense of roommate syndrome has come over your marriage. Whereas once you felt enamored with each other 24/7, now you feel like you’re just ships passing in the night. What started as an exciting and supportive partnership feels so far from where you began and now you’re concerned that you’ll continue to drift apart. This could make you anxious, depressed, irritable, and isolated.

Deep down, you may be wondering if you and your partner have what it takes to rekindle your spark. At The Therapy for Women Center, we’re here to answer that with an emphatic yes. Our Gottman-informed approach to counseling can help you repair your connection, increase your intimacy, and create a life of shared meaning and purpose together.

Relationships don’t come naturally, despite what the movies say.

Our culture teaches us many unhealthy beliefs about love and romance. We are taught that when you find the right person, “everything will click,” as if relationships are based on pure chance. The truth is that, no matter how magical the first encounter may feel, relationships take hard work. Even intimacy doesn’t come naturally to most couples, and if it seems to at first, there are generally periods when every couple feels disconnected.

What’s more, most people are not taught healthy communication skills and conflict resolution strategies. Many of us grew up with less-than-ideal examples of how to resolve marital discord. And even if our parents did their best, they may have had blind spots or they may not have modeled the repair process for us. This is why it’s so important for couples to seek extra support. None of us is born knowing all the answers to relationship issues, so there’s no shame in getting help.

In today’s world, couples are more disconnected than ever.

It’s no secret that couples today face more distractions than at virtually any other time in history. Between social media, endless entertainment options, and our busy, work-crazed lifestyles, it’s hard to drown out all the noise in our lives and focus on each other. Oftentimes, relationships crumble simply because people are so preoccupied with life’s demands and have no room for intimacy or quality time. This is especially the case once kids enter the picture, as parenting often takes up all of a couple’s time and energy.

Thankfully, it’s possible to rekindle your romance and breathe new life into your relationship, no matter how much you and your partner are struggling. As long as the two of you want the best for each other, you can break out of old patterns and establish a healthier, more mature connection.