Not Drinking Tonight Books

Most books about alcohol are black and white: you’re either an alcoholic who needs to quit, or you’re fine. Not Drinking Tonight (and its companion workbook for therapists) offers a different approach. It is a judgment-free path to examine your relationship with alcohol, understand why you drink, and build a life you don’t need to escape from.

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Choosing Not to Drink Can be Daunting

I didn’t stop drinking because I’d done something outrageous while under the influence, like land myself in jail or get married in Vegas. I stopped because I realized three things: 1. Alcohol was making my life worse. 2. Moderation wasn’t helping. 3. I could not be a therapist if I continued to use alcohol to numb my life. Something needed to change—not just my relationship with alcohol, but my relationship with myself.

Choosing not to drink can be daunting. It’s everywhere in our culture, our socializing, and our de-stressing. And it can seem black or white: you drink, or you don’t (and if you don’t, people ask why). That’s where Not Drinking Tonight comes in. Judgement-free and relatable, I’ll help you unpack your relationship with alcohol by showing you how to:

FIND OUT WHY YOU DRINK
Whether it’s a glass of wine after work or a weekly bar crawl, your drinking habits can be the result of everything from biology to trauma.
HEAL YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH ALCOHOL
Understand how your relationships have been affecting your life, and learn how to set boundaries and create true self care.
CREATE A SOBER LIFE YOU LOVE
Learn what comes next—how to maintain your social life, navigate sex and relationships, and love yourself.

Not Drinking Tonight isn’t a program to stop drinking. It’s the first book to help you address the root issues that cause you to reach for a drink, and create a life you love—one that is not perfect, but is messy and real and one you are fully present for.

Amanda E. White, Author of Not Drinking Tonight

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For therapists

How can you help clients who are gray area drinkers?

Help clients pivot away from the question “Am I an alcoholic?” and consider instead: “Would my life be better without alcohol?”

not drinking tonight workbook by amanda e. white

If you are a clinician struggling with helping your clients with alcohol moderation, I have a workbook just for you! In it, I tackle the question therapists ask me most: How can I help clients whose alcohol use has become problematic but who don’t identify as “alcoholics” or have no interest in traditional abstinence-based methods that involve going to rehab or attending 12-step groups?Using a harm reduction approach, each chapter contains worksheets and exercises that will help your clients examine why they drink and allow them to change their relationship with alcohol as they learn to:

• Regulate their emotions without alcohol
• Set and maintain healthy boundaries
• Redefine what authentic self-care looks like
• Navigate sober socializing, dating, and sex
• Create a relapse prevention plan
• Build a sober life they love

And more.

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What Professionals Are Saying

“Finally! A book on drinking that I truly believe in!”

“As a therapist, this is the book about drinking I have been waiting for. NOT DRINKING TONIGHT offers a fresh perspective on substance misuse and gently guides you, with relatable examples, on how to choose to stop drinking tonight, tomorrow, and—if you want—forever. Finally, a book on drinking that I truly believe in and am excited to recommend to my clients.”

—Elizabeth Earnshaw, LMFT, @lizlistens and author of I Want This to Work

“Amanda White’s multi-layered approach offers empowerment, experience, and wisdom to those looking to begin their own journeys.”

“Anyone wanting to change their relationship with alcohol must be willing to do some deep self-examination. Amanda White’s multi-layered approach offers empowerment, experience, and wisdom to those looking to begin their own journeys.”

—Annie Grace, author of This Naked Mind & The Alcohol Experiment

“I truly believe anyone will benefit from reading this book, regardless of their relationship with alcohol.”

"Even for those of us who don't want to cut out alcohol, this book is such a great, relatable resource that will help us cultivate more self-awareness and compassion, while gently examining our relationship with alcohol, and ourselves.”

—Caroline Dooner, Author of Bestselling Book The F*ck It Diet

“A wonderful guide to setting boundaries with alcohol—and yourself.”

Amanda helps you dig into the root of your struggles to better understand why you drink and why you might want to stop—setting you up for a more fulfilling life all around, even if you don’t choose full sobriety. Readers will gain the self-awareness, compassion, and confidence to make choices that better serve them.”

—Nedra Tawwab, MSW, LCSW, New York Times best-selling author of Set Boundaries, Find Peace

Not Drinking Tonight Books

Choosing Not to Drink Can be Daunting

How can you help clients who are gray area drinkers?

Help clients pivot away from the question “Am I an alcoholic?” and consider instead: “Would my life be better without alcohol?”

What Professionals Are Saying

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