by Becca Adleberg, M.Ed
Ah, self care.
Did the image of someone with a clay face mask on and cucumbers for eyes appear in your mind when you read that? In my head, it’s a woman with her head of hair wrapped in a purple towel and an annoying, blissful smile on her face. There’s tranquil spa music playing in the background as she sips water infused with fruit, not a care in the world.
The American beauty industry tells us these essential oil infused pieces of paper are the key to relaxation and “self care”. If you can slip into your silk robe after a nightly lavender scented bubble bath you will be a more productive and happier human. But for someone with sensitive skin and a hatred of lavender, that routine just doesn’t do it for me. So what next?
Self-care has no strict definition but can be best explained by the small daily habits one establishes to ensure their well-being. It is obtuse and yet deeply personal. The reason face masks and fruit water have not cured the stress epidemic we are facing is because everyone needs to establish their own routine.
Throughout my practice as a therapist, I have learned the importance of helping clients find the individual things that make them feel as though they are caring for themselves. I start the practice by encouraging them to integrate small moments of daily joy. Something as simple as having a short dance party in the living room, to larger things like getting a good night’s sleep. However, broadly speaking self-care should focus on two main areas; physical and psychological well-being.
For me, the bulk of my self-care is my morning routine. I try to start each morning by moving my body. My favorite way to do so is what I have affectionately coined “the waddle”, a combo walk/run where I stop to pet every friendly dog whose owner will let me. This helps nurture both my physical and psychological well being. My body appreciates the movement, and my heart appreciates how many dogs wear sweaters in the wintertime! Nothing extravagant or costly, just simple joys.
To establish your own self care routine, think about what you need for your body to feel good and for your brain to feel good, that you can do on your own. I always tell my clients they can start as small as eating a piece of chocolate. Give yourself permission to do things that feel restorative.
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In the end, self-care should be an independent exercise that looks different for everyone. Take these tips to start building your own self-care practice!