“This is just who I am” “This is who I wound up being” So often I see people feeling stuck where they are. Feeling like whatever their Enneagram test or Myers Brigg’s says, that’s their destiny. But I’m here to tell you that you do not have to feel stuck with where you are now. […]

If you follow me on instagram, you may know that this past week we’ve been talking a lot about boundaries. (And if you’re not following me on Instagram…click here to join us!) It seems that a lot of us struggle setting boundaries in various parts of our everyday lives, so I thought this week we’d expand on that! […]

“You cannot stop having negative thoughts. But you can stop listening to them and taking them seriously.” It’s so easy for us to get wrapped up in our negative thoughts and negative self talk. That little voice telling us over and over that you can’t do something, that you’re not good enough, that you don’t […]

  What is the happiness trap? YOUR BRAIN IS NOT WIRED TO MAKE YOU HAPPY. YOUR BRAIN IS WIRED TO SURVIVE. Here’s the deal…. Our society teaches us that being happy all the time is “normal” and that should be our baseline. This is something called the “happiness trap” (coined by Russ Harris). But this notion […]

Despite it being “the most wonderful time of the year”, the holidays can be tough, especially for those of us with Substance Use Disorders or Eating Disorders. After making it through quite a few sober and eating disorder symptom free holiday meals, and supporting hundreds of women through them, I’ve compiled a list of my best tips that I myself […]

Whether we are talking about relationships with friends, parents or significant others, there is a disturbing communication trend I’ve been seeing in my office and in the world lately. I call it….”taking away people’s pain”.  If you or someone you know struggles with this, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy or DBT may be helpful for you.  This trend typically starts when we are […]

I was sitting in an AA big book meeting roughly a year ago. I opened the cover and scribbled on the first page read “willingness without action is fantasy.” The quote hit me in the stomach. Sometimes we need that in recovery…a wake up call. The quote found me at exactly the right time. Since grad school I […]

So here’s the truth- as I reflect on the completion of my latest trip around the sun, it’s amazing how different I expected my life to be and even more amazing how much BETTER it turned out. Nothing in my life turned out as planned and now I’m so grateful for that. By this time […]

Have you seen the Amy Schumer’s “I’m so Bad” sketch on Comedy Central? ​Its a genius parody striking back at food shaming in the media. Seriously, if you haven’t seen it, go to youtube it… I will wait. Let me recap it for you. 4 women sitting at a restaurant sharing about how “bad” they […]

I spent years beating myself up. I thought if I was harsh and mean to myself, I could beat myself into submission, make my current mental state so intolerable that I would be forced to change. Instead, it had the opposite affect. The meaner I was to myself, the more I acted out… alcohol, food, […]